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How to Speak with Confidence in Public

At weddings, for example, I did not know how to balance satisfying couples, In 1999 my cousin paid N8,000 to a makeup artist to make her up for her wedding. Her mother screamed and screamed about how unimportant and unnecessary it was to pay for something any aunt, sibling or cousin could do…or so she thought. By 2013, the story had completely changed. That same aunt of mine, paid almost N100,000 for her last daughter to get a professional makeover on her wedding day. My aunt also got a professional makeover for herself as mother-of-the-bride, and would never go out as an event guest without a makeover by a professional makeup artist because it is now obvious that NOT everyone can do a professional’s job of understanding face type and structure, colour blending, contouring etc. By the way, that makeup artist who charged N8,000 in 1999, now charges as much as N450,000 for bridal makeovers…pheeewwwww… The MCing profession, is going through a similar transition, from family, friends, friends of friends and staff, to professionals who can clearly interpret the objectives of the event and help the event owner and audience, achieve these objectives. The MCing profession is leaving the hands of ill-prepared, untrained, self-proclaimed “masters”, to the hands of skilled, well-prepared, versed and vast, trained professionals – masters in title and in delivery. An untrained MC generally lacks the skill or direction to stir an event, while a professional MC is properly guided by the ethics of his/ her profession. An ad-hoc/amateur MC perceives the work as a hobby, and as such may not go the extra mile to make it grand. A trained professional on the other hand, knows what is at stake and ensures she performs her BEST, to ensure client satisfaction and REPEAT BUSINESS. In my earlier days as an MC, I did not understand the need to meet with my client ahead, in order to clarify and understand expectations. parents, chairman, guests and myself. Even when we did meet, I did not know particular questions to ask like: A trained MC maintains the flow of the event ensuring it takes the agreed path not going off point/track. A professional MC is smart to notice loopholes on time and cover them swiftly, especially if proper consultations have been made. I have been an MC full-time for 10 years. People ask, “Does it pay the bills”? Yes, it does. It paid little at the start, but pays a lot more now, with improved service rendition and clout, based on the application of professionalism. There is a common saying, “beta soup na money make am”, same way, ‘beta MC, na training make am’. To MC events like a professional, every MC needs good training, guidance and some mentorship. The good news is, you do not need to look too far to find a platform to get trained as a professional Master of Ceremonies.TALKADEMY Training School for Masters of Ceremonies provides you with the training and the mentorship you need. Waste no time, do it now, go to talkademy.joycedaniels.net to enrol.

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BUILDING COURAGE TO WIN IN THESE 5 EASY STEPS

Courage is not run on auto-pilot. Like musicians who play instruments, rehearse, you have got to develop it. The dictionary defines courage as, “the ability to do something that frightens one; bravery” or the ability to muster “strength in the face of pain or grief.” Courage is learned and improved upon with daily action. It doesn’t matter how much courage you lack, you can always apply trusted methods and steps in building the courage to win in any situation. Here are a few ways to boost and develop your courage levels:  1. Don’t do it once. Do it, and do it again. Repetition is the law of deep and lasting impression. Have you ever run a Marathon? How about a 10-kilometre run? How did you feel the first time you ran a 100 metre race? Like your heart would drop, right?  Maybe it was the first time in a long time you were visiting the tracks. Well, did you do it again?  You did!  How did you feel after you did it the second time? And the third? And fourth? And fifth? Now you’re a champion!  That’s it! That’s just it with Courage, it is a process! Courage is a state of mind; a lifestyle that has to be brought to the fore – grown, developed and worked. Consider courage a learned skill (anybody at all can learn it and apply it every day), hence your reading about building the courage to win in these 6 easy steps is setting you up on the right path. Knowing what Courage is, wouldn’t be so profitable in your life, until you know how to work it, build it and apply it to your situation.  When you apply it today, and after you have taken that one Courageous leap, you show up tomorrow and tell yourself, I did it yesterday so I can do it today. Then you rinse and repeat – come tomorrow. 2. Grow Your Capabilities/Capacities Consciously and Deliberately When humans see and believe that they are growing, there’s more encouragement to keep up the work. One way to grow and appreciate growth is to make clear commitments. Things like: There are so many examples to make but the point is to set your small goals; make your short strides; take your little steps (or the big, long and large ones). Whatever you do, make sure you are deliberate and consistent.  The key to building the courage to win through increasing capacity is to find your pace and enjoy it, while you keep at progress. If for instance, you need the courage to show up and speak in front of a crowd, and you made the commitment to begin speaking more than you ever did – even at your own reflection – then you pace yourself by starting with a small crowd.  You can start with maybe just a handful of the right people; friends, family, loved ones, peers. Start on a topic that’s within your area of expert interest. Remember you’re trying to pace yourself and enjoy the process as you build the courage to win.  3. Build Momentum. There’s a magic that comes with deliberate consistency; it is the magic that would eventually birth results. The more immediate results you get, the better boost your courage level gets. Did you know, with every successful stride comes an assurance of your capabilities? One positive result equals one step up your momentum ladder. Every step up your momentum ladder generates more power to propel you to keep doing.  Remember that courage is a doing word. Having set goals and made clear commitments, you’ll see that the bigger goal is more in view now that you are making efforts to build the courage to win than when you were being eaten up by fear. Using the public speaking example from before, a person who has committed to speaking consistently to a familiar audience can gain momentum by going further to speak to an audience with less familiar faces. Such a person can begin to curate small audiences of 5-10 persons who are not in your friends and family circle. Deliver a presentation to them every week or every other week. With each presentation, change the audience and if possible increase the number of your audience. Ask your audience for a review. Publicise the reviews if you wish.  Commit to this and be consistent! That will give you momentum. In other words, the more you do, the more you are able to do. The more results you get, the stronger momentum you build. The stronger your momentum, the stronger your courage, the surer, more assured of yourself you would be.  4. Leverage on your fears! Think about it this way; if you had ever done something or embarked on a project that frightened you, you were almost convinced that you were going to flop or the big plan wasn’t going to work, but you did it anyway.  You had your fears, yet you dared to try. You were probably forced into action by circumstances beyond your control. Therefore, you put on your best shoes, employed your best hands, and gave yourself all the necessary pep talks that you could. There was no other way; no other option. Either you did it, or you did it, so you did it. With all the fears and uncertainties, you went ahead and did it.  You actually did it!  Well, guess what? It wasn’t just your adrenaline pumping, it was that the fears were pointing you towards what you truly, really, wanted.  Remember these when fear knocks, If you ever achieved a feat in the midst of your fears, please, courageously and confidently wear it as a medal. It would remind you that you have won once, you can win again…  and you will win again!  5. Set your mind right! Ladies and gentlemen, we must agree on this; if you would walk your high lanes on your feet, you must first walk it in your

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9 DANGEROUS SPEAKING MISTAKES

After years of Professional Speaking, Leading Seminars, MCing Corporate Events, training speakers, I have discovered that quite a number of speakers make terrible mistakes, nine (9) of which I’m about to share with you. I see these mistakes over and over and over again, and so I want to expose them to you, so that you can avoid them, and immediately take control of your speaking business. it is actually impossible to give a powerful presentational speech, without clarity. You will need to get clear on your message, before you create the  speech. You will need to be very clear about the purpose of the messages. Is it to impress your audience? is it to motivate your audience? is to pass an information across? is it to entertain your audience? When you know the message and the purpose of it, you become more inspired and motivated, with increased passion for the message and therefore ofcourse, you will inspire your audience, motivate your audience and get them as passionate as you are. Lack of clarity brings confusion, thereby making your speech boring, bland and weak. A very important part of every  speech, is the structure. The structure helps your audience understand you, and of course it helps you become more confident, knowing the direction you’re taking. If your speech is not structured, you will lack coherence in delivering that speech. Structure would include- A strong opening. The opening should attract favorable immediate attention from your audience. Then you have your body, which should have within it, evidence to substantiate your facts or your points. Finally, you should have a closing that is both memorable and relatable. If you lack this basic structure, you will find yourself dabbling, and it would just not work out very well. You may have heard of the phrase “Silence is Golden”  or the other phrase “pausing for effect”  well this is so true. You should pause to allow your audience reflect on what you’ve said, from time to time. A lot of speakers are just ranting, instead of delivering  structured speeches with adequate pauses. You should never appear to be babbling on stage. Always remember , Silence is golden and pause for effect. Now this is one of the funniest of them all, because I don’t know, for some reason when we were growing up, People told us ” when you’re delivering a speech, move around the stage”. I don’t know where that came from, and lots of speakers keep falling into this trap; a deathtrap for speaking. So, many speakers move without purpose. I would suggest, I would highly recommend, move, but always move with  purpose. Your hands, your feet. Your body should support what you’re saying, and where they do not support what you’re saying, please do not move. Try as much as possible to stay within the centre of your stage, so that it is easy for the audience to find you whenever they look up. Never again move without purpose. Only move to substantiate your points. This is a serious matter. If you must use somebody else’s material, mention the source. Let us know this was once said by this or that person. Avoid being a copycat without giving proper acknowledgment  to the source of your material. Of course you can always do the hard work of finding your own voice, discovering your own style, and developing your own content. If you do not have your own content, you can hire a professional to help you develop your own unique content, so that you can shine, grow and not be afraid of being caught as a copycat. Your words should always align with your  gestures. If you’re sounding happy and alive and passionate, then there should be a smile on your face with upbeat body language. You can’t say you’re happy and then have a very low tone of voice, with very sluggish or sloppy body language. Nobody would believe you. So your gestures should be sincere. What you say and what you do, should be in sync. A lot of speakers undervalue their own experiences. They don’t see the power of relatable stories in their own lives. See, everyone has a story. So you have to find your own personal stories to use in your speeches, this way you would share a bit of yourself, people will learn more about you, you would bond better with your audience, and they would see you as one of them; see you as relatable and down to earth, not some strange being from another planet. One of the challenges of using somebody  else’s story is, somebody  in you audience may know the story better than you,  you may misplace the facts, you may make errors and punch holes in the story, thereby losing credibility. So, I highly recommend, find your own story and by all means, tell it.  Specificity builds credibility. It also creates a more vivid picture in the mind of your listeners. Thus helps you  tell better stories, while connecting with your audience. What do I mean? Rather than say – “The other day, we were traveling into a city. We  stopped somewhere to have lunch”.   Say, “The other day, we were travelling from Lagos to Enugu, and when we got into Enugu, we stopped at Kilimanjaro Restaurant for Lunch. We had a whole bowl of Oha soup”. You see, the details in the story, make it more believable, build your credibility and of course more enjoyable for you and your audience.  Nobody wants to strain to hear a mousy speaker stumble over their words. You need external awareness to raise your voice, to the point where everybody in your room can hear you. Be the kind of speaker that everyone can hear clearly without even a microphone. So don’t confuse yelling with projecting. You don’t have to shout. But raise you voice and make it strong enough for your audience to hear you. As a speaer you’re expected to stand

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